Hey guys, great community here, big thanks to Ryoni for starting it all. Anyways, saw some topics here and thought this might be a good topic. 6 Ways to be Truly Happy, in case you guys need a pick me up

6 Ways to be Truly Happy

Hehe Melancholic
I read your blog, and made me smile

You see, you complicate too much things here. I don't know if u realize that your point of view is how you look from inside to outside. That is, how other people look at you... how you expect to be seen by others.

Can't say that it's wrong, but... you will never be accepted for everyone, since the acceptance of others depends a lot in the own acceptation. E.g.:
If I don't like my work, and put the less energy on it, and I see that you spend a lot of energy in your job, because you like it, then I will criticize you because I will feel that your attitude toward your job it's a critic to my attitude toward my job!! You will be contradicting MY point of view, therefore I won't agree with you... See my point?

Other people works in the contrary way: they expect that everyone should take care of their needs and everyone must do something to satisfy them (I know some people like those ). That attitude is because the lack of confidence or own acceptance. It might be temporary, but in some people is permanent. E.g.: I'm out of job and out of luck, therefore I'm unsatisfied with me and my situation. Therefore I would expect from everyone to try to make me feel less bad.. but if this situation goes for a deeper thing (e.g. parents give me everything but care, and I feel that I have had not enough family love),then the situation is not so temporary, tends to be "permanent". This people always have justifications for all their mistakes, and always blame others so that's why they expect from the others to satisfy them... understand?

A more equilibrated thing is of course when you are satisfied about yourself, and then you are able to give, not necessary expecting a reward (though it will come). You see, being happy with you, with what u are, with what u have, is the first rule. Is like... if you have nothing, then you also have nothing to share. You have to have candies to be able to give candies or to share them... You have to have love to be able to give love... but to do that, u have to leave negative charges behind you.. past things that u didn't like, unsatisfied things, negative thoughts... Interestingly, you put the key to that:

"Learn to just let it go. Instead of focusing on how annoying things are, simply switch to something else that actually matters"

Once you are able to dominate that, you can improve your life and happiness...

Of course, nobody is perfect... there are moments in your life where u will try to look for other's people acceptance, sometimes you will need from the others to satisfy you.. sometimes you will have an equilibrium.. but the most important thing is to keep in mind that the extreme points should be temporary states, while the equilibrium must be the dominating thing in ur life...

And to reach that, you have to let the bad moments go, and switch to something else that really matters...

Well, it's my opinion....

You have very good points above GOES11, thanks for visiting the blog However, even if I agree with what you are saying above, again you may be missing the part where not everyone handles the same things in the same manner. While you may say that all everyone needs to do is let things go, many people can't do that. Sure, it may be the sure fire way to be happy for you, but for others, it may not be applicable.

Some people are built the way they are. Some people can't change. Thus, the need for more options for people like that. And I think many will agree that as agreeable as it is to just let things go, the other points that were made may very well help them even more But I do agree with you, life would be so much simpler and happier if we all learned to just let things go.

hehehe or mayb it's the difference between a melancholic and an optimistic

Anyway, I like your points, though we don't agree 100%, but I'd like to see more opinions, since the subject I think is really interesting

And I like your blog, for sure u will see me often there too

(as I hope 2 see u around here also )

haha i am a realist my friend the best of both worlds glad you liked the blog, and appreciate the nice words too. if you read the comments of that entry, there were a few who put on their opinions also on how to be happy

Cute melancholiac. But sadness must be part of life too. And anger, fear and all kind of feelings. However and I dont think "we can control our lives" like you said 6 ways. But again, Its a good view. Good advice.

Amen to the blog specified and peoples reaction!~

Hi Stage6,

of course sadness is part of life, the only way for you to know what happiness is, is when you've experienced what it feels like to be sad, right? thanks for reading the blog

Your welcome. Good blog and youre right on some points. But I must say, this 6 ways for to be good person or living good life but not for happiness. We cant control our feelings like that. If we can control our feelings like that, then this turn to be acting and you cant enjoy it. And sometimes happiness boring. Sometimes I want cry. But I cant.

6 ways: 1. chocolate
2. boyfriend/girlfriend love
3. cat
4. music
5. nice bag
6. being kind